I am a happy to say that I attend Quaker Meetings on a regular basis. No I am not going to get all evangelical, but I want to pass on my observations on their business meeting practices.
A Quaker is a listener, they like stillness and silence, they talk about discernment - a deep spiritual reflection on an issue or decision. They seek unity after “clearness”. My feeling and experience is that in our management meetings we could no better than employ these skills.
How often do we solely listen to another speaker? I mean really listen, not thinking about how we or others will respond, looking for the next thing we can say, looking at the next topic, dismissing their opinion because it doesn’t suit our needs or agenda? If we really listen we might hear something we need or a newness we have not considered.
Do we react immediately someone has finished talking? I have never heard a silence in a business meeting yet….
Sorry! A stunned silence yes but a reflective, thoughtful, absorbing silence?
Silence is one of the most effective tools in a HR practioners toolkit - once you know that the other person has actually said all they want to say and it gives time to consider a response rather than just jump in. Silence can be misunderstood, others thinking you don’t have anything to say or are being “slow” - we need to cultivate silence as a tool in meetings - it could fundamentally change your culture and decisions.
If you are in a meeting of listeners, you can be heard.
Business decisions are generally reactive and needs-based, if we take time out to “discern”, deeply think about, research and comtemplate decisions, will these not be better decisions? Decisions we fully know are right for our business and we are committed to? This clarity enables business leaders to truely engage with employees and clients more fully and believably.
Following listening, silence and discernment comes unity. The Board may not all agree on a course of action or decision, however everyone has been able to contribute fully to the process, has been given the space for opposing views and knows that fully consideration is being given. This means that hopefully the correct path has been chosen, no one person (even the CEO) has forced through an idea or direction. This leads to a unity and pulling together behind the course of action - a committment.
A key phrase there is “leads to a unity”, we all want Leaders in business not Dictators.
I hear you say - how long will that take?! Probably longer than usual, but in the long run that desicion will be right and will be followed through.
Quakers themselves might take a long while - years to come to a decision, but one thing you can say for them - they are committed once decided.